Steve Vernon and Naomi Karp: Proactively Addressing Cognitive Decline

August 9, 2022
55 min
Steve Vernon and Naomi Karp: Proactively Addressing Cognitive Decline
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IN THIS EPISODE, THE ANNUITY MAN, STEVE VERNON AND NAOMI KARP DISCUSS:
- Safeguarding from financial exploitation
- The Money Path: six steps to protect yourself
- Things to consider when getting multiple advocates
- Easing someone else into planning for cognitive decline

KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- Financial exploitation is something you need to safeguard your future self against because as you age, it’s only natural that you’d be more vulnerable to making mistakes. Keep in mind that 5% of financial exploitation is done by someone a person knows and trusts.
- First, choose a trusted financial advocate. Second, organize your financial information. Third, start a conversation with your advocate. Fourth, explain your situation, goals, values and expectations. Fifth, officially appoint your advocate under a power of attorney. Sixth, acknowledge the signs in advance.
- When choosing multiple advocates for your finances, set it up so that decisions won’t require the sign-off of multiple people. You can also set up an accountability system to make sure your advocates are doing it right. There needs to be communication in order to avoid conflict.
- Getting your parents to agree to planning for cognitive decline might require that you give them a gentle nudge through asking questions. Remember that asking questions is far more engaging than direct statements.

"You get to your late 70’s - 90’s, let’s just be frank, you’re quite not as sharp as you used to be. It is the case that you are more vulnerable to making mistakes or being exploited by unscrupulous relatives or friends. The best time to plan for that is when you still have all your wits intact and to put safeguards in place later to be triggered when you might need them." — Steve Vernon

"You wanna be proactive now because if you get to a point where you are - already having cognitive challenges whether it be mild cognitive impairment or dementia, not only won’t you really be able to think through these things in the best possible way but legally you won’t even be able to put someone in place. You can’t make a power of attorney if you don’t have full capacity to understand what it means to make a power of attorney." — Naomi Karp

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really excited about today's program we

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have multiple guests on typically it's

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just one guest now we have two which is

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fantastic there's so much IQ in the room

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I need to just leave because there's a

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lot of smart people here uh one of the

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guests has been on before his name is

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Steve Vernon he um we're going to have

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links to a site

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restoflifecommunications.com rest of

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Life communications.com all one word

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um he's a consultant he's an expert he's

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an academian he's just an all-around

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good guy but very very smart but today's

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topic is going to be a great one because

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he's brought a guest on as well her name

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is Naomi carp and she is an elder law

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attorney and she also is a consultant

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Nationwide on Aging law and policy which

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is very interesting with my group that

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follows me in my client base Etc they're

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mostly Baby Boomers and baby boomers are

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kind of rolling into that chapter two of

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their lives and I think this is a very

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very good topic because we're talking

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about

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cognitive loss potential cognitive loss

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and ways to go about

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combating that from a standpoint of risk

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of financial loss so I'm going to have

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their site they have a great site that

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I'm going to point you to called

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thinking ahead

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roadmap.org thinking ahead roadmap.org

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I'm going to put that link on our site

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as well but let's just jump in with a

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question Naomi I'm gonna I'm gonna ask

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you first about just how how your path

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has led you to this very interesting

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specialty and in a world of demographic

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title ways where 10 000 baby boomers are

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hitting age 65 every single day actually

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more than that

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tell tell us kind of your background as

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being an elder law attorney and how that

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has transformed itself to being a

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consultant on aging and the policy that

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affects that can you give us a little

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background there sure and I'll try to

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make it short

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but since I'm a baby boomer I have many

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years of experience so I'm I'm right

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there with the population we're talking

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about

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um so many many years ago I went to law

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school because I wanted to be a public

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interest lawyer I wanted to do use the

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law and policy to do good in the world

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and for the first 10 years of my career

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I was a legal services lawyer which

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means I represented low income and older

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people who couldn't afford lawyers in a

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variety of civil matters not not

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criminal and during that time I kind of

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became specialized in issues of older

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adults and there are a whole spectrum of

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issues you know some are the same as

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younger adults you know maybe they're

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getting evicted or maybe they need some

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kind of public benefits but you know

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they also get involved in advanced

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planning for the possibility that they

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might become disabled or incapacitated

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in some way which is going to lead to

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where we're going today

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um you know lots of issues that

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particularly impact older adults at some

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point in my career I moved to Washington

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DC which is kind of the heart of policy

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and policy making and advocacy and

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research so I switched from representing

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older adults directly and worked more on

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a kind of system level on issues

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everywhere from Social Security and and

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Medicaid and end-of-life decision making

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to

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elder abuse and financial exploitation

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and scams and all of that stuff and so

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in my career in Washington I worked for

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two non-profits including AARP the Big

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Kahuna

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um and then the very last part of my

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full-time work career I worked for a new

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federal agency that was just opening its

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doors called the Consumer Financial

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Protection Bureau which

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some people know of it as uh it kind of

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came out of an idea that Elizabeth

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Warren once had but then Congress passed

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the Dodd-Frank Act and the agency

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came into being and it was specifically

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mandated by Congress to have an office

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looking out for the financial protection

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of older Americans so I spent eight

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years there it was fantastic setting up

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the office and putting out tools and

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Publications and you know things for

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older people and for all the people who

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interact with them everything from Banks

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to

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law enforcement Etc so now the past

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um almost three years I've been a

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consultant and I do work for non-profits

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and government entities and private

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entities and so forth and here I am a

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couple years ago was able to meet Steve

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and then a third partner of ours Marty

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delima we all had a connection at that

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point with the Stanford center on

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longevity and

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then we got to this project and I'll

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I'll let it go there that was probably

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more than you needed that's that's

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that's wonderful and I'm glad you you

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gave us that background because uh in

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the past I had done some work with

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Elizabeth Warren's office they contacted

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me about an article I wrote a long time

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ago and we were trying to eliminate the

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incentive trips and things like that

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within the annuity industry

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um and she wrote a very good I helped uh

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with the writing a very good report and

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and obviously it got kind of stalled a

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little bit because the insurance

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industry is Pretty Tough from a lobbying

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standpoint but but have been in those

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trenches with you and trying to protect

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seniors out here because it is uh

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there's it's like Chum in the water and

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and blood in the water I mean they're

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circling and it is bad Steve I want to

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jump in with you because

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um there are risks of financial losses

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due due to cognitive decline what have

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you and your Associates found and what's

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what's glaring to you that's happening

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right now

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well it's pretty clear uh both

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professionally and personally because

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I've gone through this with my parents

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as has Naomi so we've seen it firsthand

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with our relatives but also seeing it uh

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out in the world you know you get into

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your 70s late 70s 80s 90s and

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um

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let's just be frank you're just quite

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not as sharp as you used to be sure and

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of course the age varies according to

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each person but it really is the case

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that you're more vulnerable to Simply

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making mistakes or

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uh being exploited by unscrupulous

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relatives or friends it may not be

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illegal but it might not be the best in

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your interest or even outright fraud

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and so uh we really see the need for

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preparing for this

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inevitability for a lot of people and

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it's real natural I'm I'm in my late 60s

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it's like oh that's gonna happen that'll

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never happen or that'll happen sometime

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in the future right the best time to

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plan for that is when you still have all

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your your wits intact and put safeguards

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in place later to be triggered when you

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might need them

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because what will happen we I've seen

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this all too often

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instead of this preparing for it

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some event happens where the senior you

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know gets defrauded or makes a mistake

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or has a big loss and then their adult

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children swoop in and clean things up

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and not only is that a big mess and

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their losses have already occurred but

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when the kids are making decisions for

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you they may not have your best

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interests at heart not that they're

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trying to mess you up they just can't

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get in your head and know what you're

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doing correct and so I'm we're saying

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have the senior take charge of the plan

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and develop the plan now

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to be triggered when you need it down

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the road

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Naomi how prevalent

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is this type of risk and um

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I know this is kind of a broad question

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but how much can seniors lose um I don't

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know if that's answerable but I'd rather

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you address the prevalency of the risk

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um and the other thing that I'd like you

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to talk about is we all have egos and we

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all have um you know there's some

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embarrassment issues when you do make

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mistakes or you have been taken

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how are you looking at that and how do

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you talk to seniors or have seniors

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address the fact that they're not firing

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on all cylinders

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you know at the end of life or as they

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as they go through chapter two that

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seems to be the toughest thing because

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when I have that conversation with my

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clients I'm like listen you're you're an

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A personality and you're you're kicking

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it right now but there will be a time

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that you will not be so we might want to

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plan on turning uh some of the

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investments into TurnKey type

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Investments how prevalent is this risk

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for seniors

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okay so we're really talking about a few

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different kinds of risk here so I don't

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think I can give you one number for any

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of these but let me just sort of throw

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out a few things that I think all feed

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into it so so Steve talked about the

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different kinds of risks that we're

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trying to protect against so it could be

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mistakes that just happen because you

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are starting to have some kind of

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cognitive decline or it could be the

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outright

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um fraud or financial exploitation

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so when it comes to financial

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exploitation

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um there have been some really good

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studies that have shown that the you

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know the prevalence of financial

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exploitation even let's just talk about

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financial exploitation by a family

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member or someone you know and trust you

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know is probably around five percent

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that's great

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and then you add in all the strangers

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frauds and scams you know that could be

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someone in another country it could be

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someone who you think is romantically

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involved in you who you met online who

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is actually not even a real person

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they're just such a broad array of kinds

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of financial exploitation and fraud so

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you know then we could be getting up to

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you know one in ten people or even more

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the studies are not that

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um

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necessarily that reliable it's a really

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hard to drill down on that and you

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mentioned the issue of embarrassment

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that makes it even harder correct so you

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might you know a great academician might

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do a study and someone might be too

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embarrassed to admit that this actually

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happened to me or

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um you're doing a survey and you're not

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necessarily even getting at the people

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who already have the cognitive decline

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if someone has Alzheimer's you know

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they're probably not going to be

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answering a a survey so it's hard to get

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your hands around a number but we know

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the numbers are big and then you asked

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about you know how much can people lose

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people can really lose a lot yeah

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um you know it could be somebody losing

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50 bucks in some little online scam or

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it could be someone losing all of their

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life savings I mean we have horrible

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stories of

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um I mean I'll just give you one example

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from like a million different types

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um

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let's say someone convinces a relative

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or a friend or someone in their

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Community to name them as an agent on

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your power of attorney giving them a

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whole lot of authority

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or to put them on a joint bank account

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let's say oh it'll be so much more

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convenient for you that person then has

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the means and the Privacy to go in and

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just wipe out those accounts so we have

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people losing millions of dollars we

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have people losing hundreds of dollars

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depends how much you have it might be

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your whole life savings and we always

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say one of the real dangers here is that

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when people are up into their later

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years and especially 80s and 90s when

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these things are probably even more

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common

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um or even 70s you're not in a position

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to earn it back you can't replenish that

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nest egg that you had so that's another

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reason why it's so dangerous

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um I think you asked me more but it was

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a lot of questions I appreciate you I

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know I I'm I'm fascinated by this topic

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and see before I've got a question for

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you before I I I go further on that I

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wanted to just read something from their

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site which is think thinking ahead

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roadmap.roadmap.org I'll have that link

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but it says one in five people aged 75

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to 79 have mild cognitive impairment or

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dementia and this risk increases to one

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in two

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for people in their 80s now at that site

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they actually have something fantastic

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which is a road map that you can either

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download it or you can order a print

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copy there's all kinds of news there's a

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Blog there's

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they do a great job and this is a site

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that you want to put as one of your

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favorites because what you're doing is

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you're piggybacking off off of these

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Decades of experience with Steve and

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Naomi and just their passion for trying

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to help and prevent seniors from from

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losing money Steve what should seniors

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do to protect themselves and and their

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families and the money they work so hard

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to accumulate because we all know that

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senior citizens

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however you want to Define that they

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control the majority of the wealth in

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this country that's just the that's the

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bottom line so what does that mean

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anyone in the financial services

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business

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targets them Target might be a good or a

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bad word in this case we're talking

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about it from a bad word how do people

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protect themselves

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well Stan uh that's the heart of our

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thinking head road map and so on the

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website we have something called money

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path and it's a six step plan that

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seniors can follow to prepare in advance

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for the situation and always we're

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trying to prepare in advance

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um and so let me just quickly read the

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six steps um one is choose a trusted

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Financial Advocate and that's find

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someone in your life who can help you

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manage your finances when you need that

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help and it can for a lot of people it

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might be their spouse but if they pick

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their spouse recognize that their spouse

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could be the same age and correct so if

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you pick your spouse it should be a

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backup you're like an adult child or

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someone else you trust and uh however

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for lots of people they don't have that

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so you might have to get a professional

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lots to talk about in each of these

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steps

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um but that's step one uh step two is

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organize your financial information take

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an inventory write it down give people a

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road map to your finances

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because you can imagine uh just imagine

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if you're in a car crash

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and you couldn't talk but someone had to

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take over your finances what do they

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need to know

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um and I think that also includes let me

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interject her that also includes sign-on

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information log on information

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um digital information digital

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intellectual property as they say

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um don't forget that you need to you

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need to have that stored away in a safe

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place and also with your financial

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Advocate having access to that as well

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so number three right right and I'm

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going through these quickly our website

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has all these things uh third is start a

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conversation with the financial Advocate

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you picked because either the senior

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might be resistant The Advocate might be

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resistant commonly oh Dad or Mom you're

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fine right you know busy

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so you got to start the conversation and

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then step four once you've gotten

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through that initial conversation is

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then just explain your situation what

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you expect from them what your goals are

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what your values are

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you know we see examples of of seniors

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who supported certain Charities but once

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their kids took over but

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that charity gets cut off and you know

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again it's just what are your priorities

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that you want

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now the most important one and here's

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where you want to talk to Naomi is

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officially appointing your Advocate

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under a power of attorney and making

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sure you do that in a legal way and

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that's one of Naomi's many Specialties

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so I'll let her talk about that sure and

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then the sixth one is to acknowledge in

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advance what the signs might be

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that it's time to shift and the signs

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can either be subtle or they can be just

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wacky in the head you know like you had

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a heart attack or something like that

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but whatever it is have a plan in place

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because it's so easy for people to get

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to that age in life and still think

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they're doing fine

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in fact there's a graph in one of our

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reports that shows

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participants the seniors confidence and

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their ability to manage by age and it's

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a flat line they never lose confidence

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in their ability to manage their

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finances but then there's the actual

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ability based on cognitive abilities of

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people that age and it's a steady

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decline sure so it's real common for

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people to just think they're doing fine

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I think if you commit in advance to say

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oh you know when when my driver's

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license gets taken away

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um that's fine that there's some Frailty

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involved and feeblemis involved and

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there are many signs but just know I'm

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in advance and say to your

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your friends and family hey when you see

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me doing this or that uh bring that to

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my attention on a side note I recently

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my mom lives in St Augustine Florida

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she's getting ready to turn 84. and we

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made the decision that she doesn't

18:47
really need to drive she doesn't see as

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well and we set her up on an Uber so

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that anytime she wants to go anywhere it

18:54
goes on my credit card she can she's got

18:56
I thought you now have a personal driver

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and so she's really enjoying the freedom

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of of going when she wants to go and we

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found out that she was not going out at

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night because she didn't like driving at

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night now she's going out with her

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friends at night because of this Uber

19:12
that we've set in place for so those are

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some signs that we saw and obviously you

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know um in the financial business so

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I've seen the other as well and and

19:21
protecting her Naomi I wanted to Pivot

19:24
and all of this comes down to most

19:27
everything in life is communication

19:29
right and good communication proactively

19:31
but I also want you to weigh in from a

19:34
legal standpoint this isn't some

19:36
do-it-yourself situation you really need

19:39
to have a partnership with a very good

19:42
um you know elder law attorney do you

19:44
agree with me on that

19:46
I actually do agree with you that on

19:49
that we had a lot of conversation when

19:52
we were developing the road map

19:54
um and and I will mention that a lot of

19:57
research went into this so before we

20:00
actually even though we were all experts

20:02
in one way or another before we actually

20:04
sat down and created the road map we did

20:07
a bunch of expert interviews with

20:10
professionals as well as older adults

20:12
and caregivers with focus groups with

20:15
different segments of older people at

20:17
different ages

20:18
we did something called an online

20:21
community Forum we were where we

20:23
actually had 120 older people for a

20:26
two-week period and came online every

20:29
day and we gave them we threw out

20:31
questions and exercises and it was like

20:33
a brilliant chat room and we got just

20:36
all kinds of help from them about you

20:38
know what their thinking was how we

20:42
should message it what words resonated

20:44
for them what words were I turn off so

20:46
there's a lot behind this but getting

20:50
back to your question about the elder

20:52
law attorney we did struggle with the

20:56
issue of you know we didn't want our

20:58
tool to be sort of the Full Employment

21:01
for lawyers act for a lot of people out

21:04
there who think oh getting a lawyer it's

21:07
really expensive that's so complicated I

21:11
don't know who to go to

21:13
um

21:14
and in some cases those things might be

21:17
true in many cases they're not true but

21:22
over all of my years working on these

21:25
issues and especially working on things

21:27
like Powers of Attorney and Trust other

21:30
kinds of legal Arrangements that people

21:32
put in place sure I've really learned

21:35
that you have to do it right and if you

21:39
download a form from the Internet or you

21:42
know you use some free whatever that

21:46
somebody's out there to kind of hook you

21:48
into your services or whatever you may

21:52
not be doing yourself a favor because a

21:55
these things are governed by state law

21:57
so we want to make sure the document

21:59
that you create is valid under your

22:01
state law and that could even be simple

22:03
things like your state might require two

22:05
witnesses or they may not required to be

22:07
notarized you need to know that but your

22:10
state law let's say on power of attorney

22:13
is going to have other Provisions about

22:15
what kind of clause should or shouldn't

22:17
be in there also it really needs to be

22:20
tailored to you everyone a different

22:23
situation sure some people think oh I

22:26
hardly have any money you know if

22:29
anything I have a little money in the

22:30
bank I have my social security

22:33
um income and I have debt so why would I

22:38
need a lawyer you know I don't have

22:39
anything well it's just not true

22:41
everyone's situation is different you're

22:44
right you might you know so many older

22:46
people own a house or some real estate

22:48
so they might be house rich and cash

22:50
poor they're just a lot of nuances here

22:52
everyone's family situation is different

22:55
so yes I generally do recommend that

22:59
it's advisable for people to see a

23:02
lawyer when it comes to something like

23:04
making a power of attorney making sure

23:06
the power of attorney is the right

23:07
document for them if they have

23:10
complicated finances maybe they have

23:12
property in other states they own a

23:15
business whatever it could be that a

23:17
trust may be something they need and you

23:20
can't we can't answer those questions

23:22
generically those are the kinds of you

23:25
need some individual advice

23:27
um you know so we do recommend you know

23:29
shop around get recommendations you can

23:32
call several lawyers you can find out

23:33
what they would charge to do something

23:35
simple maybe you're eligible for

23:39
um some free legal services in your

23:41
community so lots of ways to go

23:44
well and it's just like medical advice

23:46
you don't do it yourself with medical

23:48
advice it's the same thing and this is

23:50
as important and what I found in my 30

23:53
plus years in the business is lawyers

23:55
that choose the elder law

23:58
track are different people

24:00
they are they they use their mouth and

24:03
their ears in proportion they listen and

24:06
this is a customizable situation Steve

24:10
what are the roadblocks I mean this

24:12
could be a roadblock the finding the

24:14
lawyer and maybe that's a it shouldn't

24:16
be a stopper for people but what are the

24:18
other roadblocks and challenges that

24:22
seniors face looking at this it's a

24:25
tough issue for people to look at in the

24:27
mirror and think about it but it's one

24:28
of those things where we need to what

24:30
are they facing there what are those

24:31
roadblocks

24:33
well uh let me start with I'd say the

24:36
emotional and psychological roadblocks

24:38
is that people are busy and yeah this is

24:41
a risk that might not happen for many

24:44
years it's like okay I've got other

24:46
things that are more important right now

24:48
and so to me the biggest risk is just

24:52
ignoring it being complacent assuming

24:55
that it won't happen I agree so I like

24:58
to say

24:59
um there are a series of critical

25:01
decisions as you transition into

25:03
retirement

25:04
and this is one of them that you need to

25:06
pay attention to as part of that

25:08
transition

25:10
and think of it uh so somewhere in you

25:14
know your mid 60s uh late 60s early 70s

25:18
at the latest that's kind of a Zone in

25:20
which you should focus on it

25:22
um so anyway that's that's one risk that

25:25
I think is probably the biggest one is

25:26
this complacency I'll do it tomorrow

25:29
but then once again beyond that other

25:32
risks are

25:34
uh yourself thinking it's not necessary

25:37
like we've talked about I or another one

25:40
is finding a financial Advocate um for

25:42
some people it's a natural they've got

25:44
an adult child or a spouse or somebody

25:47
but others don't and so it might take

25:50
some searching

25:51
to find someone uh another family member

25:55
or if you have to pay someone that you

25:58
know that's that's another risk that

26:00
people face is just getting the right

26:02
person in place could there be a

26:04
situation and I I asked this more from a

26:07
corporate setting I mean you have you

26:09
receive your extension extensive

26:11
background in the corporate world this

26:12
should be I I'm dying to hear your take

26:15
on it

26:16
since if there's not one person could

26:18
there be a board

26:20
of directors of your cognitive State I

26:24
mean could you have three could you have

26:25
two in other words instead of trusting

26:28
one maybe if you say listen

26:31
you're the people that I trust and love

26:33
it can't be all family members by the

26:35
way and you bring in you know a board of

26:38
directors to oversee and have these

26:39
conversations with and maybe it's your

26:42
lawyer have you seen that happen because

26:44
I know they have a board of directors

26:45
for my company

26:47
um and it does work because you have

26:49
some objective viewpoints coming from

26:51
different

26:52
um expertise levels what do you think

26:55
about that well I appreciate that and

26:57
yeah working the corporate world I can

26:58
relate to corporate border collectors

27:00
but the phrase I like more is developing

27:03
a convoy of support

27:04
is a more friend I like that

27:08
and so um yeah you might have one or two

27:12
people who are handling your finances

27:14
but then if you if you're really lucky

27:17
maybe you have some adult children who

27:19
check in on you

27:21
um

27:22
and are they're seeing you to make sure

27:25
that you're doing okay so it's not just

27:28
the finances that's a critical part

27:31
that's true just be uh logistical

27:34
support

27:36
um and then maybe it's involving your

27:37
neighbor across the street and say hey

27:39
neighbor would have you ever see me you

27:41
know fall down in the street or

27:42
something like that you know pick me up

27:43
right well pick me up and then call who

27:46
do you call exactly yeah

27:49
um and so it can just be building out

27:51
that Convoy of support and I it so and

27:54
again it's much more than just the

27:55
finances but definitely want to have the

27:57
finances in there in that Convoy yeah

27:59
you definitely you need a team go ahead

28:01
name it yes yeah just to jump in

28:04
um you know we have talked a lot about

28:06
you know whether should it be One

28:08
Financial Advocate or should it be

28:10
political and then you know especially

28:12
when you're coming down to how you make

28:14
it official with the power of attorney

28:17
um you know people certainly can have

28:19
more than one person they can have

28:21
co-agents

28:23
um they just need to be aware they

28:25
probably want to set it up so that

28:29
um whatever decision is made doesn't

28:31
require the sign off of two or three

28:34
people because that I'm very cumbersome

28:36
maybe this maybe you have three adult

28:39
children and you love them all and you

28:41
trust them all but they're in three

28:43
different states one lives around the

28:45
corner from you but the other to live

28:46
somewhere else and I know we're now

28:48
living in a virtual world but still you

28:51
know it's cumbersome so when it comes to

28:54
someone who might eventually be doing

28:56
all of your finances for you paying your

28:59
bills um

29:00
potentially collecting rent applying for

29:03
benefits all of these things maybe

29:06
making transactions on the market things

29:09
might have to happen quickly you don't

29:11
want to create roadblocks that didn't

29:13
have to be there so you could have

29:15
people in an alternate position another

29:18
thing you can do in something like a

29:20
power of attorney is let's say you want

29:22
to select one of your adult children

29:25
but you want everyone to feel included

29:28
and you also want to make sure that that

29:30
person you trust them but you kind of

29:33
want to verify that they're doing it

29:36
right you could actually write into a

29:38
document like a power of attorney that

29:41
that main person you have should give an

29:43
accounting let's say every six months to

29:46
your other adult child or your cousin or

29:49
your neighbor or whatever so they're

29:51
sort of accountable to someone sure that

29:53
really helps them keep good records and

29:56
then communicate about it and

29:57
communication is as We Know

30:00
you know ultimately so important we want

30:03
to avoid family conflict so those can be

30:06
good techniques as well

30:08
we're talking to Naomi carp and Steve

30:11
Vernon and they have a site they have

30:14
extensive background we could keep going

30:16
on that all day but they have a site

30:17
called thinking ahead roadmap.org

30:20
thinking ahead

30:22
roadmap.org all one word

30:24
and we're going to have that link on our

30:26
site but I was I was looking just at the

30:28
downloads you have free downloads and I

30:30
was just looking at some of the

30:32
downloads you have an example of a power

30:35
of attorney or tips to protect

30:37
retirement Investments and income and

30:41
like a financial spreadsheet that you

30:43
have you've laid it out so that people

30:46
don't have to create the wheel here

30:47
you've already done this and it's and

30:50
it's free you can download it you can

30:52
order the book I mean if you're if

30:53
you're not a a techie person they've set

30:56
it up for you to do either or so you

30:59
know of all the sites that I've seen in

31:01
a long long time and I'm always

31:02
searching for things that my clients can

31:04
use as as something positive in their

31:07
life

31:08
this is one of the best ones I've seen

31:11
and I know this is a hard conversation

31:13
for a lot of people to Stan are you

31:15
really talking about cognitive issues

31:16
yes I am

31:18
you know as a good friend of mine in the

31:20
Life Insurance business says one out of

31:21
one of us is going to die okay which is

31:24
not a good motivational speech but true

31:26
but I just read you the stats you know

31:29
about cognitive cognitive issues if you

31:32
make it into your 80s one out of two

31:35
so this is something that I know you

31:37
don't want to think about listeners and

31:39
viewers but I need you to I need you to

31:42
lean in right here

31:43
and connect with these two listen to

31:46
these two experts because they know what

31:48
they're talking about and it's time for

31:51
you to even though you you will say to

31:53
me hey Stan I don't need this I'm

31:55
hitting it on all cylinders I'm I'm

31:57
never gonna yes you are gonna lose it

31:58
you need to

32:00
you need to address this

32:03
um

32:04
we talk about some of the signs that it

32:06
might be time to transfer some of this

32:08
you know responsibility

32:11
but um

32:13
can you go into that a little bit more

32:15
Naomi about just kind of the signs and

32:19
what people should be aware of I don't

32:20
want them to become obsessive compulsive

32:23
about their cognitive abilities if they

32:26
lose their keys I don't want them to

32:27
fall off the cliff here because we all

32:29
do that but what do you what would you

32:31
give somebody from a pragmatic

32:32
standpoint on how to start thinking like

32:35
this or even not to wait until that

32:38
happens and to be proactive now

32:41
well first of all you hit the nail on

32:43
the head with that last thing you do

32:45
want to be proactive now because as

32:48
Steve mentioned earlier

32:50
um if you get to a point where you are

32:53
already making mistakes and you already

32:55
having cognitive challenges whether it

32:57
be mild cognitive impairment or dementia

33:00
full-blown dementia

33:02
not only won't you really be able to

33:05
think through these things in the best

33:07
possible way but legally you won't even

33:10
be able to put someone in place you

33:12
can't make a power of attorney if you

33:14
don't have full capacity to understand

33:16
what it means to make a power of

33:18
attorney and how to choose someone and

33:21
what kinds of things they can do so you

33:24
have to do it when you're still

33:26
have capacity so yeah doing it now is

33:30
the thing

33:31
um when you're talking about red flags

33:34
or warning signs that maybe that is

33:37
starting to happen you know particularly

33:39
in relationship to finances you know and

33:42
we're not here to replace the you know

33:46
psychologists and geriatricians and all

33:49
the people who actually do these

33:50
capacity assessments we're just talking

33:52
more generally about you know what do

33:54
people need to know

33:56
so you know things like you're starting

33:59
to make a lot of mistakes they could be

34:01
Financial mistakes they could be things

34:03
as simple and and we see this all the

34:06
time uh people forgetting to pay a bill

34:10
um let's say you don't have your your

34:12
utilities or whatever your monthly

34:14
payments are on auto pay and you just

34:17
start forgetting to make those payments

34:19
or sometimes people are paying it twice

34:22
or three times

34:24
you know maybe they're still writing a

34:26
check they send a check and then a

34:28
couple days later they send a check

34:30
again so memory issues for getting to do

34:34
things like that

34:36
um and it could be things that aren't

34:39
Financial you know you're forgetting

34:42
doctor's appointments you're forgetting

34:44
I mean my mother who has advanced

34:46
dementia now she's 97 when she first

34:49
started declining

34:51
there were two ways that I and I was

34:54
living 200 miles away from her two

34:57
things kind of set off my alarm Bell

34:59
that said

35:01
mom needs to live closer to me and we

35:04
need to have more systems in place one

35:07
was she was starting to forget she would

35:09
make a date with my cousin and then she

35:11
would not show up and that my cousin

35:14
would call her and she'd say oh Judy's

35:17
so nice to hear from you like no clue

35:19
that she was Judy was standing on the

35:21
corner waiting for her to go to the

35:22
movies

35:23
um the other thing is she was starting

35:25
to put things on the stove and then go

35:27
in the back room and do something and

35:29
the next thing she knew she smelled the

35:31
pot burning so

35:34
little things like that that can be kind

35:37
of disastrous

35:38
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35:39
um

35:40
you know it's things like that

35:42
um maybe you're making some bad choices

35:45
with your Investments your

35:48
um you're falling for a scam I mean

35:50
people when they start losing the

35:52
capacity to handle finances yeah you

35:55
start losing the judgment about what is

35:58
legitimate and what isn't and that's

36:01
that's been documented with studies and

36:04
by the way the capacity to handle

36:06
finances is one of the first kinds of

36:09
capacity to go when you start having

36:11
cognitive impairment you know probably

36:15
earlier than a lot of other things like

36:17
making how to make Health Care decisions

36:19
and other personal care things it's the

36:22
finances that often will go first

36:24
and I know that AARP who you used to

36:27
work with and for Naomi they've done a

36:30
great job and they they continue to

36:31
address this issue proactively Steve I

36:34
want to Pivot and ask you a question

36:36
about we've been talking about people

36:38
that are Baby Boomers and just things to

36:40
be aware of but there's a lot of people

36:41
that are listening and viewing this

36:43
podcast that are the children uh 40s and

36:46
50s I don't know what A's are and

36:48
they're thinking wait a minute I need to

36:49
start thinking about this with my mom or

36:51
my dad or my uncle or my grandmother or

36:54
whoever and they're the ones to start

36:56
that conversation they're the ones to

36:58
proactively

37:00
make their senior loved ones aware of

37:03
the risk and the challenges and and

37:05
start showing them the tools that you

37:07
have provided on your site

37:11
coach them through that a little bit

37:13
because that's a tough one like if I

37:15
walked up to my mom and go you know what

37:16
Mom kind of lose it a little bit that's

37:18
not the way to do it right I mean she's

37:20
got she's a southerner and she's like

37:22
get out of my face Sonny you know who do

37:24
you think you are how do you how do you

37:27
gently go into that conversation even if

37:31
that person is not you don't even think

37:34
they're losing uh cognitive ability

37:36
you're just trying to be proactive as a

37:38
loved one

37:40
well thanks Stan for posing that

37:43
question and I've got some ideas but let

37:46
me just start with if you're listening

37:47
and you're in your 40s and 50s

37:50
um this could plop in your lap if your

37:53
parents don't be proactive about it yeah

37:56
and it might pop in your lap when you're

37:58
still in your career and busy or with

38:00
your family so that's kind of the

38:02
motivation is that what we found is that

38:05
people want to be independent in their

38:08
lives and they don't want to depend on

38:10
others but

38:12
most of the time Family jumps in when

38:15
there's a problem

38:16
and the family is the insurance company

38:19
here you know

38:21
so that's the motivation is that it

38:23
could happen at your busiest time so if

38:26
you can motivate your parents

38:28
or your uncles or aunts uh people in

38:31
your lives that you know you would step

38:32
in for if the chips were down then start

38:34
helping them be proactive

38:36
so back to your question how can you

38:39
kind of gently

38:40
get people to think about it

38:43
um maybe there's somebody in your family

38:45
who's much older and they're starting to

38:48
lose it and it's pretty obvious so you

38:49
know that Uncle Harry say to your

38:51
parents your Uncle Harry he's not doing

38:53
that well and oh yeah and you start

38:55
sympathizing and talking about it and I

38:57
sure hope he's done something to protect

38:58
his finances you know it's less

39:01
threatening if you talk about somebody

39:03
else good point mom you're losing it

39:05
good idea

39:06
so that's that's one suggestion

39:09
um and then but then to get start

39:12
drilling down

39:13
well um instead of saying hey Mom you're

39:16
losing it it could be you know I've

39:17
heard I heard an interesting show stand

39:19
the annuity man had a great show about

39:21
this and uh and said how important it is

39:24
to protect your finances you get older

39:26
and have you thought about that you know

39:30
we found in our research that

39:32
um asking questions is far more engaging

39:36
than directive statements

39:39
so asking a question have you thought

39:41
about how you might protect yourself

39:42
when you get older

39:45
um

39:46
then it doesn't put them on the

39:47
defensive it makes them have I thought

39:49
about that

39:50
you know so at least those are I'd say

39:52
stories and questions are the two types

39:55
of things that are really engaging to

39:57
people and I think what Naomi said

39:59
earlier which which kind of popped out

40:01
at me there has to be and this might be

40:03
the lawyer in you but there has to be

40:06
protocols in place and what whether

40:08
they're subtle planned

40:12
um and ongoing there has to be protocols

40:14
in place for you to be kind of checking

40:16
off the boxes if you're the if you're

40:18
the caregiver loved one son daughter

40:20
granddaughter whatever because I think

40:23
this podcast can be for the person

40:25
that's listening that's going yeah I am

40:27
a senior I really don't have a lot of

40:28
people around me and I probably need to

40:31
be proactive with that but I think

40:32
bigger than that are people like myself

40:36
um that have my mom and I'm trying and

40:38
my wife's mom and we're trying to be

40:40
proactive I'm not going to tell you

40:42
which one's more cantankerous uh when we

40:45
approach them about that but one of them

40:47
is not buying it they don't want to uh

40:51
believe that they're going to be needing

40:53
that kind of help and a lot of it maybe

40:55
I was gonna name I was gonna ask you

40:57
this for the for the person out there

40:59
the senior citizen that needs to address

41:01
this and the third parties coming in

41:03
with the son or daughter there's a

41:06
secretive issue there's a lot of people

41:08
that don't want to reveal what they have

41:10
even to their family

41:12
what do you do there because the you

41:14
know if you're trying to be their

41:16
Advocate and they're only telling you

41:18
about 25 of what they have and they got

41:20
a bunch of bearer bonds stuck in the

41:21
Bible on the Shelf how do you address

41:24
that because that's got to be an issue

41:25
as well

41:27
yeah so a couple of things and that

41:29
again is something we talked about a lot

41:32
you know what if what if you are ready

41:35
to talk to someone about the fact that

41:37
you might need their help later but

41:40
you're not ready to open the books right

41:42
yes and we think that's okay

41:47
um

41:48
it's okay to say I'm not going to share

41:51
all my finances with you now I'm still

41:54
fine I'm handling it

41:57
but you got to give them something so

41:59
you have to say

42:01
I've gotten it organized and I've got

42:05
this locked drawer or you know I've got

42:09
a password keeper online that'll you

42:12
know get you you have to give them a key

42:16
to something a lock box a location of a

42:19
drawer hopefully not you know the

42:22
Bible's on the third shelf a little bit

42:25
less so you know

42:27
mysterious and hard to find than that

42:30
but you got to give them just enough so

42:33
that later when they really need the

42:36
details they'll know where to find them

42:38
but it's a hard it's a hard balance

42:40
because we are part of our message is

42:44
that we're trying to protect your

42:46
Independence and your autonomy as long

42:48
as possible sure and actually the more

42:51
you plan

42:52
the more you are keeping control because

42:56
you're picking the person who's going to

42:58
step in you're telling them how you want

43:01
them to do it when the time comes you're

43:04
telling them how you want your money

43:06
spent and all of that but um you have to

43:10
at least open the door and let them in

43:12
part way

43:13
but I think people can do that

43:15
successfully I think that's a good way

43:17
to put it Steve this is this is this

43:19
dovetails into what we all describe as

43:22
end of life planning

43:24
but it's for whatever reason it's

43:26
something that

43:28
um

43:29
just is Hard One to bring up

43:32
um but I think that you know we talked

43:34
about the privacy issues and the ego

43:36
issues and the embarrassment issues but

43:39
what I want my listeners and viewers to

43:40
realize is there's eventuality issues as

43:43
well this will eventually

43:46
visit you or your family and I just

43:49
Naomi just keeps saying proactive please

43:52
be proactive put the protocols in place

43:54
and Steve can you address the

43:56
possibility of just the patience factor

43:59
of addressing a loved one and just

44:02
taking it and baby steps over time

44:04
because I'm assuming you have seen that

44:06
as well

44:07
right and

44:09
um and I actually had something I had

44:11
the Naomi's last yeah please do yeah

44:13
please do

44:14
here I worked on this with Naomi and

44:16
Marty and uh I couldn't

44:19
tell my son who's the financial Advocate

44:21
our account amounts

44:24
just like that it was just something

44:26
made me want to be private I couldn't

44:28
give up but I did give them a list I we

44:31
have accounts here here and here here

44:33
are the phone numbers here are the

44:35
account numbers I just didn't put the

44:36
amounts in there you know so that and I

44:40
said if you need it you know you can

44:41
call them they'll tell you the amounts

44:42
you know so I'm just giving that as one

44:45
way to give them the information they

44:47
need without having to reveal how much

44:50
money you have in there and that can go

44:52
a couple different ways some people are

44:53
ashamed at how little they have agreed

44:56
are kind of private they don't want to

44:58
show how much they have you know go

44:59
either way

45:00
so I just wanted to share that you can

45:02
you're beautiful that's interesting um

45:04
and I think I think uh Naomi had a good

45:08
idea I was talking about

45:10
um just putting some protocols in place

45:12
like for instance my mom when my when my

45:15
dad passed away five years ago we she

45:18
had really never been involved in the

45:19
Bills or the finances she was the mom

45:21
she grew up in the South North Carolina

45:23
nothing wrong with that but uh she just

45:26
didn't have any um experience so we put

45:28
all of the bills that we could on

45:30
autopay

45:31
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45:32
now what happened which is interesting

45:34
you're probably familiar with this

45:36
because you've done the research there

45:38
are companies out there in nefarious

45:39
companies that will send multiple bills

45:42
to seniors for them to pay

45:44
they'll send cards or you know uh

45:47
postcards that say have you paid your

45:49
bill yet and my mom will call me I said

45:51
it's on autopay Mom okay tear that up

45:54
and tell me who that company is so we

45:56
can report them

45:59
um

46:00
she she kind of bristled a little bit

46:02
when we did the auto pay because I think

46:04
she felt like we thought she was pitiful

46:07
but now she's embraced it because she's

46:09
like well I don't have to worry about

46:10
that because it's taken care of

46:13
um

46:14
do you have any other anecdotes to

46:15
stories that maybe can help the people

46:17
out here that are listening to it relate

46:19
to what you guys are trying to do

46:22
well and Stan you just hit on a good

46:25
solution

46:26
um to help convince people is it'll be

46:28
easier for you yes

46:30
um now you still have to pay attention

46:32
and autopay is one of the worst things

46:34
that when someone passes away

46:38
that's true that is true but um I think

46:43
here's another subtle warning sign is

46:46
that do you ever get frustrated talking

46:49
on the phone

46:50
with uh people at the bank or your

46:53
insurance company or having to deal with

46:55
it online

46:56
right now at this age you know we deal

46:58
with we we put up with it but later some

47:01
people just go ah buoy and they hang up

47:03
that's a sign but also it's that's a

47:06
sign that might be time to start

47:07
thinking about transitioning or a plan

47:09
for it but also it's a sign of how you

47:11
can get them to buy in you know oh if

47:14
you don't wanna

47:15
have that frustration of dealing with

47:18
these folks set up the plan now put it

47:20
on auto pay

47:22
um and it's not just the bills that can

47:24
go on auto pay

47:26
um I we talk about protecting your

47:28
savings yes and if you you can do a

47:31
couple things to put your cash flow on

47:33
autopay like an automatic withdrawal

47:36
from your

47:38
investments into your checking account

47:40
almost like paycheck you're paying

47:42
yourself correct buying annuity which

47:44
you might know something about yeah we

47:45
do have we do have some you know I'll

47:47
have some proactive spouses that'll say

47:49
both female and males say you know what

47:52
I'm just going to go ahead and buy this

47:53
annuity joint life just in case down the

47:55
road we're not hitting on all cylinders

47:58
this money is going to be hitting the

47:59
bank account we're going to be okay

48:01
Etc obviously I want to them to get

48:03
their loved ones involved but yes there

48:05
are some Investments on just annuities

48:06
that that can be TurnKey uh in nature I

48:10
think what's interesting about both of

48:12
you and I wish I hope to have you on

48:13
again with Marty uh Marty could be with

48:15
us today but um it's just

48:19
the philanthropic feeling of what you

48:21
guys are doing you've you've established

48:23
these things to really really help you

48:26
both have successful careers this is

48:28
something that obviously is a passion

48:29
for you

48:31
um where do you see this headed what's

48:33
the plan for thinking ahead roadmap

48:36
what's the plan for this because it it

48:39
needs I'm gonna blast it out as best I

48:41
can

48:42
but where is it headed from here Naomi

48:44
can you address that

48:46
yeah

48:47
um

48:48
and that is something that we've

48:50
grappled with and I I've you know for my

48:54
many years in kind of Public Service

48:56
career

48:58
you think of a project you do the

49:00
research you create the tool you print

49:03
it you got that nice design cover you've

49:05
got a great website whatever and you're

49:07
like you're done well no you're not done

49:10
that's actually just

49:13
you know the first step because if you

49:15
don't get it out there and people don't

49:16
use it sure worthless so we've been

49:20
giving a lot of thought to you know how

49:22
do we really get this out there once

49:25
people get their hands on it oh yeah and

49:27
understand it

49:29
I think we're most of the way there

49:33
because hopefully we have created in a

49:36
way that it's understandable we answer a

49:38
lot of questions and a lot of things

49:39
that people can do independently yes but

49:42
it's getting people getting it into

49:45
people's hands so one thing that we're

49:48
working on right now is we want to make

49:51
it easy for people in different

49:53
businesses and professions and Service

49:55
careers to present workshops or or

49:59
classes on the thinking ahead roadmap to

50:03
get from an audience in their Community

50:05
you know it could be

50:08
um

50:09
it could be HR in a company or an

50:12
employee assistance program saying this

50:14
is a great tool for our employees to use

50:17
for themselves and their parents so

50:20
let's do a workshop on it it could be a

50:22
senior center or some other local place

50:25
it could be a faith-based organization

50:28
it could be an elder law attorney's

50:30
practice there's just so many potential

50:32
people who could deliver this so we are

50:35
actually in the process of creating some

50:38
facilitator materials good creating a

50:41
PowerPoint

50:43
um it's got the basics of the road map

50:45
it's got little

50:47
participatory exercises where people can

50:50
go into Pairs and talk about these

50:52
things group discussions icons

50:55
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50:56
um just lots of things to make it simple

50:58
so we're trying to make it Plug and Play

51:00
so people like you people out there in

51:05
their communities can say hey I've got a

51:07
ready-made program yep I can deliver in

51:10
three hours or if I don't have three

51:12
hours there's the one hour version and I

51:15
have little handouts for people so

51:18
that's what we're working on a way to

51:20
get it more broadly disseminated but we

51:23
certainly do appreciate you and anyone

51:25
else

51:26
uh who does podcasts who are media who

51:29
can tell people about it too so we're

51:31
really thrilled that you have something

51:33
it's been a pleasure and we look forward

51:35
to having you on again I'd like to dig

51:37
even deeper this is more of an

51:39
introductory thing for us to to

51:41
introduce you to our

51:43
um our growing podcast listenership and

51:46
it's Nationwide and so we're reaching

51:47
everybody out there in this Evergreen

51:49
content which means they get to view it

51:51
over and over and over and it's going to

51:53
be on my side in perpetuity so you know

51:55
we're very very happy because we to have

51:57
you on because this is a big issue and

52:00
it's an issue that I I'm kind of a as

52:03
you can tell I'm just kind of brutal

52:05
with my Approach I just ask people hey

52:07
are you planning for cognitive decline I

52:09
mean I I'm pretty brutal with people

52:12
um and if they say no I'm like well you

52:14
need to player because it's going to

52:16
happen to you you need we need to talk

52:17
about it

52:19
um I know that's not the right approach

52:20
for everyone but um it was important for

52:23
me so when Steve reached out and said I

52:24
said the the topic I'm like abs

52:26
absolutely do want to talk about that

52:28
we've kind of Hit the the end of the

52:30
program but what I do every single time

52:31
Steve's uh used to this I'm going to

52:34
throw it to him Naomi you get it the

52:36
next time but what I do is the mic drop

52:38
moment and the mic drop moment at the

52:39
end is I throw the mic to Steve he's

52:42
going to be speaking for both of you on

52:43
this on on behalf of both of you and the

52:46
mic drop moment is just kind of words of

52:48
wisdom you know a 30 second a minute

52:50
words of wisdom to people to to tell

52:53
them you know why this is important and

52:55
just to tie this thing up and I'll close

52:56
this out so go ahead Steve

52:58
well uh thank you Stan and thanks for

53:01
having us shout out I'd say reflect

53:04
um almost everybody our age has stories

53:06
of older friends or family parents

53:10
where something has happened like this

53:13
and so reflect on that and what how did

53:15
that make you feel

53:17
and

53:19
um use that because I put a lot of

53:21
people it generates some kind of fear or

53:23
anxiety don't be paralyzed use that fear

53:27
and anxiety to motivate yourself I'm

53:29
gonna do something for me that not only

53:31
is going to be good for me but it'll

53:33
give my family peace of mind

53:36
and so peace of mind I think is an

53:39
important topic give yourself peace of

53:40
mind give your adult kids grandkids your

53:44
neighbors peace of mind that you are in

53:46
charge and you're smart and you're

53:48
taking care of this you're proactive

53:49
you're a smart thinker

53:52
um that's the message is be smart be

53:55
proactive proactive I think is the

53:57
takeaway word from this

53:59
um that I that I'm taking away but I

54:01
want to thank Naomi just fantastic to

54:04
meet you

54:05
um I'm smarter just being in the same

54:07
podcast room with you Steve the same

54:09
with you you know you guys are really

54:11
really smart I really appreciate you

54:12
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54:15
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54:21
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